In 2019, I quit drinking—because the life I was living wasn’t one I could survive much longer. It had been a long time coming. The wine was sneaking into my day earlier and earlier. Some days I was drinking at lunch time to make it easier to get through the afternoon. If I wasn’t actually […]
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It wasn’t so much an issue of not having friends. I was surrounded by people. The problem was that even though there were plenty of people in my life, I still felt this massive void of loneliness. I still had this feeling that I was doing life completely alone. That no one would be there
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What is self reflection, really? Self-reflection is just what it sounds like—pausing to take a closer look at how you’re thinking, feeling, and acting, and asking yourself why. It’s the process of noticing how you show up (both in your head and out loud), and gently digging into what’s behind it. It’s understanding why you
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You know the feeling. You’ve had a pretty decent day at work. Productive, fairly low stress, and you’re in a good mood. You have no intention of drinking. In fact, you’re looking forward to enjoying another sober evening, and waking up tomorrow feeling glorious. But you walk outside, get in your car, and suddenly all
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The most frustrating thing about sobriety is when you fight your way through the cravings, you get to 60 or 90 or 120 days sober… and you’re really just not happy. You’re not having fun, and it doesn’t really feel like you’re enjoying life. Another morning without a hangover, but instead of celebrating, you’re sitting
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I posted a reel on Instagram yesterday. It was the B-roll kind, me doing whatever in the background with the focus on the words. And the background video I chose was me playing this really cool turquoise piano last year at a sober retreat. It was an average reel. I wasn’t expecting much engagement. But
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I read a story in an online sober group the other day that felt painfully familiar. A woman, about 3 months sober, went out for a nice dinner with her husband. Instead of enjoying the dinner, she could feel anger bubbling up in side her chest the whole time. She felt angry that she couldn’t
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In the early days of sobriety, the cravings are brutal. It seems like you think about alcohol at least once every hour sometimes, and it’s so frustrating, always looking for another way to distract, another way to navigate the cravings. As a recovery coach, the single biggest challenge my clients face is getting through the
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Two weeks into sobriety, I stepped on the scale. I’d been drinking more in the past three years than I ever had, and I had the pudge to prove it. Everyone in my recovery circle talked about how much weight they lost when they quit drinking, and I was excited to see the number on
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I wasn’t scared of bears. I wasn’t scared of mountain lions. I was scared of being alone with my own thoughts. On the first day of my 185 mile hike – the first long hike I’d ever done – I suddenly found myself faced with hiking the whole thing alone. The friend I was hiking
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